I just saw a sad story today in which the protagonist described her philosophy of feminism as "not putting up with a man's crap." I'd say this is probably a fairly accurate description of feminism in general, and specifically as the lived experience of millennial women. But it's highly problematic.
The problem is: we all have crap. We all have ego, issues, and dysfunctional forms of behavior ingrained in us since childhood. We all have the responsibility to work on these. So I don't see the point of calling out men's crap as being specifically worth rejecting. Why aren't men allowed to be flawed partners in the same way women (inevitably) are?
We all have our small, sinful forms of attachment and pointing the finger at men is doing no one any good. Feminism needs to stop. Let's call out wrong things for being wrong, not for being masculine.
