I don't know if you've heard of this phenomenon called the "Dad Bod," but I've seen it pop up lately in various circles so it's probably time that I weigh in, no pun intended.
Basically, it seems that some women think that guys who have let the beer get the best of their bellies, so to speak, are attractive. Women finding men attractive isn't really a finding, but I guess the groundbreaking discovery is that men don't have to have perfectly chiseled bodies for women to find them attractive.
I believe that the reverse is also true: women do not have to have perfectly sculpted, toned bodies in order for men to find them attractive.
Some women have a few extra pounds, love handles, cellulite, stretch marks, etc., but some men still think they are desirable. Likewise, some men have "dad bods"; some women find them attractive too.
So a lot of men find a lot of women attractive, and a lot of women find a lot of men attractive!
Some don't. Some men work out like it's their job and find it insulting to believe that women find ordinary guys who spend their time on other pursuits and maybe aren't blessed with the best metabolism good-looking. Some women fat-shame other women--these women should stop.
In conclusion, I think we've learned a lot of important truths here, though it's hard to summarize exactly what these are. You know what they are. And that's what matters.
Wednesday, May 13, 2015
Thursday, May 7, 2015
Quarter-Zip
One thing I don't understand is quarter-zip pullover fleeces. Why not just get a full-zip? All my best fleece jackets are full-zip. What is the point of paying top dollar if it won't even zip all the way? The only quarter-zip fleece I have now is one that I got so cheap at Old Navy, and even so I don't wear it. It is black and white and has a houndstooth pattern. I like my teal Patagonia R2 jacket waayyyyy better. And I just got a Mountain Hardwear dark purple MicroChill jacket, which is pretty sweet. Shop the sales. Get full-zip.
Sunday, April 26, 2015
Gossip
“I have a gossip problem. I stir the pot. I'm a pot-stirrer.” - Shirley, Community
It's easy to have a fairly narrow definition of gossip, such that the behaviors you typically engage in fall outside it. For example, if your definition of gossip is "talking badly about someone else," then as long as you don't say anything outright malicious about another person, it's not gossip. Right?
On the other hand, taking a more broad view, why talk about someone else at all? To praise her virtue? To make fun of him? To provide helpful advice to someone in dealing with the other person? Motivation definitely matters, and it's important to stop and think before you take someone's name in vain.
What if you're not saying anything specifically about the other person, but just passing along news about what the person said, did, implied, incited, etc.? You're just passing it along, to keep everyone informed, and isn't that a good thing?
No.
No, actually it's not a good thing if what you are really doing is stirring the pot.
I work in a high school, and sometimes I wonder what it would be like if everyone, students, teachers, administration, cut out two things from their conversation, and gossip is one of them.
Do you ever have a conversation with someone who incessantly talks about other people, and you just wonder, "What is this person saying about me when I am not around?" Yeah. That's the kind of person you end up avoiding. Don't be that person.
It's easy to have a fairly narrow definition of gossip, such that the behaviors you typically engage in fall outside it. For example, if your definition of gossip is "talking badly about someone else," then as long as you don't say anything outright malicious about another person, it's not gossip. Right?
On the other hand, taking a more broad view, why talk about someone else at all? To praise her virtue? To make fun of him? To provide helpful advice to someone in dealing with the other person? Motivation definitely matters, and it's important to stop and think before you take someone's name in vain.
What if you're not saying anything specifically about the other person, but just passing along news about what the person said, did, implied, incited, etc.? You're just passing it along, to keep everyone informed, and isn't that a good thing?
No.
No, actually it's not a good thing if what you are really doing is stirring the pot.
I work in a high school, and sometimes I wonder what it would be like if everyone, students, teachers, administration, cut out two things from their conversation, and gossip is one of them.
Do you ever have a conversation with someone who incessantly talks about other people, and you just wonder, "What is this person saying about me when I am not around?" Yeah. That's the kind of person you end up avoiding. Don't be that person.
Thursday, April 23, 2015
A Scientific Explanation of Why I Never Count Calories
Counting calories makes me sad, and being sad causes weight gain!
Friday, April 17, 2015
5 Great Outside-the-Box Dates
Need some inspiration on what to do with your [potential] SO? Here are my latest and greatest ideas for the perfect date:
1. Brunch
Brunch is always fun. It's fun if you make it and fun if you go out. It's fun if you're gluten-free (eggs) and if you love the gluten (pancakes/waffles)! It's especially fun with bottomless mimosas. You get the picture. Plus, if you end up marrying this person, it's a good test run of what your Sunday afternoons will eventually be like.
2. Western Wear
The point here is not so much the destination (although line dancing/two-step places are lots of fun) but to dress like a cowboy and get your girlfriend to dress like a cowgirl. Why? Why not! You probably are both going to look hot with cowboy boots and cowboy hats on, so embrace it. Take some two-step lessons for extra style points.
3. Bicycle Tour
Go somewhere on bicycles. You can find the best local bike trail and see where it leads, or design a custom tour, on side roads, of an area of your choice. Get creative! All you need are two two-wheelers and a bright sunny day.
4. The Bank
Why not explore your favorite financial establishments? This could be a great way to start the conversation about money and your financial goals. Many marriages struggle over questions of money, so this is something you want to figure out as soon as possible!
5. April 25
It's not too hot, not too cold, all you need is a light jacket.
1. Brunch
Brunch is always fun. It's fun if you make it and fun if you go out. It's fun if you're gluten-free (eggs) and if you love the gluten (pancakes/waffles)! It's especially fun with bottomless mimosas. You get the picture. Plus, if you end up marrying this person, it's a good test run of what your Sunday afternoons will eventually be like.
2. Western Wear
The point here is not so much the destination (although line dancing/two-step places are lots of fun) but to dress like a cowboy and get your girlfriend to dress like a cowgirl. Why? Why not! You probably are both going to look hot with cowboy boots and cowboy hats on, so embrace it. Take some two-step lessons for extra style points.
3. Bicycle Tour
Go somewhere on bicycles. You can find the best local bike trail and see where it leads, or design a custom tour, on side roads, of an area of your choice. Get creative! All you need are two two-wheelers and a bright sunny day.
4. The Bank
Why not explore your favorite financial establishments? This could be a great way to start the conversation about money and your financial goals. Many marriages struggle over questions of money, so this is something you want to figure out as soon as possible!
5. April 25
It's not too hot, not too cold, all you need is a light jacket.
Saturday, March 28, 2015
Change Everything about Your Body Image with This ONE Trick!
Every day, there is a small, but confident group of women who walk through life unaware that they should really think about losing some weight. It may not occur to them to worry about an occasional blemish or even breakout. In fact, they do not always even wear makeup!
What is their secret? How can these women be so oblivious to the beauty standards they are failing to meet, so blissfully unaware of their many shortcomings when compared to, say, a Victoria's Secret model?
The answer to this question is a trick that can change your life too, a solution so simple that it is completely overlooked by the rest of society. It requires NO TIME, is completely free, and available to anyone.
Here's the secret: they spend less time looking at themselves in the mirror.
That's right, instead of scrutinizing every angle of their outfit in a full-length mirror or zooming in on blemishes in the bathroom, these women spend a minimal amount of time staring at their own reflection.
When you think about it, all it takes is a few very brief glances to ascertain whether one looks well-dressed, presentable, and ready to go--why prolong the process? The truth is that comparing yourself to others is all too easy, and too often glancing in the mirror leads to the temptation of comparing your appearance with that of others. Why do it?
It makes even less sense to spend more than a few seconds checking the mirror when you consider how little we change from one day to another, much less from one hour to the next. What are you spending so long checking? Your face is pretty much the same as it was the last time you looked (though it's a good idea to make sure there is nothing in your teeth!), and your figure is likely not much different either. Really, the only logical reason for spending a long time with your mirror is if you suffered some kind of injury or abrasion to the back of you and need the mirror to see how bad the damage is.
Join the growing number of women who, when it comes to the mirror, simply can't even. It's rumored they don't even own bathroom scales.
What is their secret? How can these women be so oblivious to the beauty standards they are failing to meet, so blissfully unaware of their many shortcomings when compared to, say, a Victoria's Secret model?
The answer to this question is a trick that can change your life too, a solution so simple that it is completely overlooked by the rest of society. It requires NO TIME, is completely free, and available to anyone.
Here's the secret: they spend less time looking at themselves in the mirror.
That's right, instead of scrutinizing every angle of their outfit in a full-length mirror or zooming in on blemishes in the bathroom, these women spend a minimal amount of time staring at their own reflection.
When you think about it, all it takes is a few very brief glances to ascertain whether one looks well-dressed, presentable, and ready to go--why prolong the process? The truth is that comparing yourself to others is all too easy, and too often glancing in the mirror leads to the temptation of comparing your appearance with that of others. Why do it?
It makes even less sense to spend more than a few seconds checking the mirror when you consider how little we change from one day to another, much less from one hour to the next. What are you spending so long checking? Your face is pretty much the same as it was the last time you looked (though it's a good idea to make sure there is nothing in your teeth!), and your figure is likely not much different either. Really, the only logical reason for spending a long time with your mirror is if you suffered some kind of injury or abrasion to the back of you and need the mirror to see how bad the damage is.
Join the growing number of women who, when it comes to the mirror, simply can't even. It's rumored they don't even own bathroom scales.
Monday, March 2, 2015
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